3. They Make You Feel Bad for Feeling Bad

3. They Make You Feel Bad for Feeling Bad

So, when you’re dating or considering getting into a long-term relationship, look carefully for signs of difficulty with emotional vulnerability. And if you find some, try to look for signs that your partner is at least willing to try being more emotionally vulnerable:

  • Are they willing to at least talk about painful past experiences or memories?
  • Are they willing to try therapy or counseling to work through difficulties with vulnerability?
  • And perhaps most importantly, do they acknowledge their difficulty with vulnerability?

We all have weaknesses and sensitive spots, things we’d rather keep hidden. But if you’re going to get into a long-term relationship, it’s essential that you find someone who’s willing to work on themselves, even when it’s painful.

Guilt-tripping… Gaslighting… Call it whatever you want, but when your partner constantly makes you feel bad for feeling bad, it’s time to move on.

People with chronically low self-esteem and major insecurities are always looking for ways to feel better. And often this comes at the expense of other people.

One of the problems with dating someone who’s emotionally immature is that the relationship always ends up being about them

For example, emotionally immature people tend to criticize others often. By pointing out how someone else is bad/incorrect/stupid, it makes them feel good/clever/smart. Because they can’t figure out a healthy way to feel good about themselves, they point out flaws in other people which, temporarily, makes them feel better about themselves in comparison.

Suppose you’d like your partner to spend less time on their phone when you’re together. Continue reading “3. They Make You Feel Bad for Feeling Bad”